if you do start RPF shipping people who are genuinely ok people,

[msilverstar]

Honestly, the reason I drifted out of this RPF fandom isn't that the main people involved betrayed me horribly; they just fell in love with wonderful people that they got on well with, and after that I didn't want to ship them with anyone else, but also shipping the real relationships felt not fictional enough? So I wandered out, and quit RPF altogether for awhile. So there's your other lesson: if you do start RPF shipping people who are genuinely ok people, they will go on to have nicer lives than you managed to imagine for them and all your fic is outshone. (Possibly the real enemyship these past two days is me/rpf.)

Context is melannen enemyshipping recs for UK panel shows RPF

Comments

[22degreehalo]

NGL, I have definitely had similar issues with non-RPF ships as well, heh - specifically, when someone I shipped got into a canon relationship, which was very nice and sweet and which I had no desire to break up, but which was just... too canon to excite the hopeless canon-verse Getting Together fic writer in me :')

Hell, one of my oldest ships has not just the above to deal with, but the fact that the other half of the pairing joins canon already in a relationship! Said girl's whole personality and screentime is basically just 'surprisingly good girlfriend to this dude', which really isn't enough to make poly solutions all that interesting or satisfying, but I have no desire to make her a bad guy, and the few times she does come up he seems to really like her so it's not easy to imagine them just growing apart... Such a shame that these two guys do actually make a really fun ship, so I just have to find some way to handle the situation! :'D

[msilverstar]

Yes! But still, better than what happened to in the MCU, deeply unsatisfying ending for Steve.

[yvannairie]

This is so true, and this is why I gravitate towards RPF with a stronger person/character boundary. I did actorshipping for a while but in the end it didn't really satisfy me in a wish-fulfille-y way and none of them were truly interesting enough for true Drama and Narrative :'DDD they seem decent! I just want them to have a good life! And if they do by all counts have a good life, good for them!